Part of my self-care work this year involves releasing the story I have been carrying around about what defines a good mother. My inner story is (still) far too focused on results and control - control of my productivity, the state of home, and my children's attitudes and behavior . . even control of my own behavior. A good mom keeps a reasonably ordered home. She always rises early enough to meet her children when they wake and she never hides in bed until she hears banging or screeching. A good mom usually responds with gentleness and cleverness to her children's "mal-adaptive" behaviors. She does not allow herself to become overwhelmed by typical childish behavior and throw her own version of a tantrum. A good mom has children whose behavior steadily improves over time (ha!). A good mom does not hide in the bathroom with chocolate and text her husband that he'd better get himself home in the next twenty minutes if he wants said home to still be standing.